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Find Peace and Empowerment in Difficult Times: Lessons Learned from Mother’s Cancer | Henry Ammar – powered by Happy Scribe

The moment I found out my mother had cancer just turned my world upside down. She was my best friend. And what I learned in that journey taught me how to find peace in difficult times and taught me how to be empowered in times where I felt powerless. And I want to show you how to do the same thing.

I remember being in the doctor’s office when the doctor, like, calls me, and it felt like the movies where he’s like, can you come into my office, please? And he’s like, Your mom has cancer, and it’s not looking good. And at that moment, of course, all these emotions is flood through my body. My mind is spinning like a slot machine, and I just have all these feelings. And my sister was on her way to the hospital.

She didn’t even know, and I had to tell my sister. And three years before that, we lost her father. I remember just thinking, and I just took a deep breath, and I paused. At that moment, what popped in my head was the Serenity Prayer. God grant me the serenity, the peace to accept the things that I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

And as soon as my sister came in, I remember just telling her, hey, we can’t control what’s happening to mom. I can’t control her diagnosis. But what I can control is how we show up for her, how I show up for her. The journey was tough. The journey was up and down.

And we had moments where there were difficulty, and I would just drive, and I was feeling all these emotions, crying for hours and come back in, take a deep breath, and show up for her. And there were moments where we had these beautiful moments together. On the morning of my birthday, someone got me a present. I took the bow and I wrapped it around my head, went on my mom’s bed, and I woke her up, and I put my face right next to hers. And she opens her eyes, she sees me and starts cracking up.

It was one of the best moments. And then four days later, I’m sitting at her bedside, and I’m holding her hand, and my mother passed away. And of course, again, all those feelings come in. That was my best friend. She feels everything to me.

My mind was spinning, and I was angry and sad and shocked and kind of frozen all at the same time. At that moment, I remember just taking a pause. I took a deep breath, and I connected. As I did that, a metaphor came into my heart. And my mind was something I’d heard about the carrot, the egg, and the tea bag.

There’s three pots of boiling water, and in the first one you put a carrot. In the second one you put an egg, and third one you put a tea bag, and after ten minutes, you take out the carrot. And what happens to it? It’s melted. It’s soft.

After ten minutes, you take out the egg, and what happens to it? It’s hardened. After ten minutes, you take out the tea bag. And what happened in that water? The water looks different.

It smells different. It tastes different. All the good qualities of that tea bag have gone into the water. At that moment, I realized I had a decision to make. I could be the carrot.

I could be the egg and be hardened for the rest of my life. I could be that tea bag and just make a decision to extract all the goodness from the situation that I could. Don’t get me wrong. It was difficult. But I remember looking at my mother.

I looked at her and said, mom, I will honor your life with how I live mine. That one decision changed the trajectory of my life, because I really think I would have been so bitter and upset the rest of my life because of what I experienced for the previous year. But that one decision changed it. I realized what the important part of that whole moment for me that allowed me to change that moment is what I call the sacred pause. So what I want you to do for a moment is now just take a deep breath and think of one thing in your life that’s hard, that’s difficult, and you honor your feelings.

You honor the situation. You can check in and say, okay, what are the things that I cannot change? And I’ll honor those things, and I’ll let myself feel them. But also honoring, what are the things that I can. You bring higher source, love, presence, whatever it is.

You take a deep breath, and in the things that I could, it’s asking, what decisions can I make to bring more love into this situation, to bring more presence, and to move me forward, to get into healing quicker? I invite you to take the first step in honoring that decision. And you’ll get better at this the more you practice it. These sacred pauses for me have changed my life. And I look back at my situation with my mother, and if I didn’t pause in that moment, I wouldn’t be sitting in front of you.

I wouldn’t have gone out and made the difference I made in the world, but every moment in my life, because I paused. Now, with that choice, I decided to honor my mother with everything I do in life. We’re going to go through trials, and there’s certain things that we cannot control. And so if you’re going to go through it, you might as well grow through it.

4 Things for a Spiritual Journey | Skylight Sessions with Henry Ammar – powered by Happy Scribe

I’m excited to take you on a journey that changed my life. It brought me peace and difficult times. It gave me a better sense of confidence and selflove. And it connected me to something that led me to the greatest blessings in my life, including my wife, my mission, my purpose, and that is a journey to spiritual connection and deeper love. In this video, we’re going to give you four things you absolutely need to take that journey all the way through. Number one, you have to believe that it’s there, right? We won’t really go after anything if.

We don’t really believe it’s there.

And the good news is, you believe that it’s possible, or else you wouldn’t be watching this. So you already got number one checked off. Second, you have to believe that there’s.

A way to get there.

If you look around and see other people, if someone’s done it, then it means that I could do it or it’s possible that I could do it. It’s not that just one type of person has done it all walks of life, right? So that made me believe that there.

Was a way to get there.

Three is believing that you could get there. And the coolest part about that, at least for me, when I first started this journey, it felt like it was so complex and there’s so much information and almost even contention, right, about what.

Is the right way to get there.

The right way is what feels like the next simple step for you. And the coolest part with this whole journey is if you only take one thing away, the one simple step that could literally change your entire life. If one thing sticks out to you, just apply it to yourself and just see what you could experience. Number four is you have to believe that it’s worth it. You have to believe that something’s worth it to go on a journey that feels different, that potentially could feel uncomfortable, because if it was comfortable, you would already be doing it. So let’s do number four together. I want you to allow yourself to imagine for a second you reach this destination in your journey where you get to feel peace. You get to feel that love within yourself, loving yourself even in the parts of yourself that you don’t like. You get to feel and believe that your past does not equal your future unless you choose it. You get to feel and believe that you’re loved right now, exactly as you are releasing the shame, releasing all the excess stuff you’ve been carrying your life, and that there’s possibility to go from survival in your life to creation.

Imagine embodying that reaching that destination and what it could feel, look and sound like for you. And I want you to fast forward three months. Three months, you’re deeply connected. You feel more peace, you feel more grounded, you feel more confident. You’re more present in your life exaggerate how good it could be. How would you feel when you look in the mirror at yourself? How would that impact your purpose, your mission? How would it feel to be more free? Instead of walking around in fear, you walk around grounded knowing that you’re connected to something so much bigger than what’s happening outside of you. Most people overestimate what they can do in a week, but underestimate what they could do in three, six months. Now, I want you to fast forward a year from now. Imagine embodying it even more. Every day you stayed consistent more and more, even if you fell off the path, you said, you know what? I’m coming back on this path. Every day you built more confidence. Every day, you built more self love. Every day, you loved others even better, knowing that it doesn’t matter what happens on the outside, because inside there is a sense of love and peace and strength inside of you.

And that peace impacts the rest of your life. So enjoy this journey. We’ll see you on the other side.